Raising Godly Children Part 4

Raising Godly Children Part 4

Disciplining Children

In part 3 of our Raising Godly Children study we looked at Proverbs 22:6 about training up our children.  Reading the commentaries on this verse I realized that not only do I need to pray for blessings on my teachings but also for discipline.  Today we will look at verses that instruct us on disciplining our children.  Keep in mind that most of these verses talk about disciplining with a rod but these verse are not only talking about physical discipline but also of reproof through words.

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Proverbs 13:24 (NIV)

Whoever spares the rod hates their children,

    but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary

“He acts as if he hated his child, who, by false indulgence, permits sinful habits to gather strength, which will bring sorrow here, and misery hereafter.”

By not disciplining my children I let sinful habits grow stronger

Have you ever considered that when you give in or ignore bad behaviors you are actually letting sinful habits take hold of your child?

 

Clarke’s Commentary on the Bible

“That is, if he hated him, he could not do him a greater disservice than not to correct him when his obstinacy or disobedience requires it.”

I am doing my children a disservice my not disciplining them

Think about some of the strongholds that the enemy has over your life still today that you wish someone would have helped your overcome before they really took hold.  What are some things you see in your children that you would like to help them change before the enemy can really grab ahold of them?

 

Proverbs 3:12 (NLT)

For the Lord corrects those he loves,
    just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights

Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary

The father corrects the son whom he loves, because he loves him, and desires that he may be wise and good.

I must discipline my children because I love them and want what’s best for them

How will your child learn to follow God’s commands if you do not discipline them when they do wrong and praise them when they do right? 

 

Pulpit Commentary

They are corrections, but they are the corrections of love.

I need to make sure my disciplines are out of love not anger

How often do you discipline as a reaction instead of with a loving, patient, and teaching attitude?

 

Proverbs 19:18 (KJV)

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible

“Chasten thy son while there is hope,…. Of guiding and keeping him in the right way, as long as corrections are or can be hoped to be of use; while in a state of infancy, childhood, and youth; while under parental government; and before habits in sin are grown strong, and the case become desperate, and he is hardened, and proof against all instruction and discipline; “

I must discipline them through out their whole childhood to keep them on the right path

As your children have aged, have you disciplined less and let them get away with more?

 

“and let not thy soul spare for his crying; the noise he makes, the tears he sheds, the entreaties he uses to keep off the rod; let not a foolish pity and tenderness prevail to lay it aside on that account the consequence of which may be bad to parent and child;”

I must carry though with discipline when it is needed

How’s your carry through?  Do you discipline in the way you say you will?  When privileges are lost, do you stick to the timeframe you gave originally?

 

“and then the meaning is, that though parents should be careful to give due correction to their children, so long as there is hope of doing them good, yet not in a brutal and barbarous manner, to the endangering of their lives: as some parents are too indolent, mild, and gentle, as Eli was; others are too wrathful and furious and use no moderation in their corrections, but unmercifully beat their children; such extremes ought to be avoided.”

While I need to be careful not to be to lax in my discipline I also must be aware that I am not being too harsh and disciplining out of anger.

When we discipline out of anger our reproof can get lost in our loud words and rough hands.  When you discipline when angry, do you think your children understand what they did wrong, why it was wrong, and what they should have done instead?  Or do you think they are focused on the fact that you are angry? 

 

How do you feel after you have discipline or set punishments in moments of anger?

 

Proverbs 22:15 (NIV)

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.

Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary

“Sin is foolishness, it is in the heart, there is an inward inclination to sin: children bring it into the world with them; and it cleaves close to the soul. We all need to be corrected by our heavenly Father.”

All have sinned so all need corrected.  My job is to correct my children just as my Father in heaven corrects me.

Do you ever question the need to be constant in your discipline?

 

Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible

“but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him; the rod used by parents, for the correction of sin and folly, is a means of making children wise, and of restraining the folly that is bound up in them; and of reclaiming them from those sinful ways, which the folly of their hearts leads them to, and so in some measure of driving it far from them.”

Correction makes children wise.

Do you look at discipline as a way of teaching your child or just as a way to punish them?

 

Proverbs 29:15 (NIV)

A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.

Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary

“Parents must consider the benefit of due correction, and the mischief of undue indulgence.”

Remember the benefits that come when correction is given when needed.

In your current season, do you find it difficult to see the fruit of the discipline you give your children?

 

Pulpit Commentary

“A child allowed to do as he likes, undisciplined – spoiled, as we call it – is a shame to his mother, whose weakness has led to this want of restraint, fond love degenerating into over-indulgence”

My weakness is producing an undisciplined child

Do you let your weaknesses or laziness keep you from giving discipline when needed?

 

Proverbs 29:17 (NIV)

Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.

Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible

“yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul; by his tenderness to his parents, obedience to them, and respect for them; by his prudent behaviour among men; by his sobriety, diligence, and industry in his calling; by his fear of God, and walking in his ways; than which nothing can give a greater delight and pleasure to religious parents.”

Nothing would bring be more delight then seeing my children fear God and walk in His ways.

What do you pray will come from all the discipline you use to train up your child?

 

Lord help me to not be overindulgent with my children.  Make me strong and consistent in my discipline.  Keep me focused on the benefits that come from immediate, appropriate, and loving discipline. 

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